Six things to do if the passion has gone from your relationship
Even the best relationships can drift into roommate territory if you are not careful and it often happens without you even noticing it along the way, right? If that’s the position you find yourself in right now, and your relationship is less passion and more practicality and you want to change that, below are a few things you can do to get things back on track and bring that romance, passion and connection back into the room.
1) Face facts
First, stop pretending it’s not happening. Passion doesn’t magically return because you ignore it. A calm, honest conversation about how you’re both feeling can be surprisingly powerful. This isn’t about blame or dramatic declarations, rather, it’s about acknowledging that something’s changed and agreeing it’s worth working on together.
2) Break the routine
Now, you need to break the routine on purpose. Familiarity is comforting, but it can also be a passion killer. Eat dinner somewhere new. Take a spontaneous day trip. Switch up who plans date night. Even small changes can remind you that your relationship isn’t on autopilot, so even if it’s just something incredibly simple, do it and see what happens.
3) Build intimacy
Third, focus on non-sexual intimacy again. When passion fades, couples often stop touching altogether unless sex is involved. Bring back the basics: holding hands, hugging longer than three seconds, sitting close on the couch. Emotional closeness often reignites physical desire naturally.
4) Flirt
Now, it’s time to flirt like you used to. Remember texting just to say something cheeky or suggestive? Do that again. Compliments, teasing, inside jokes – these things build anticipation and connection long before anyone ends up in the bedroom.
5) Talk about what you want
Desires change, and what worked five years ago might not be hitting the same way today. This includes being open to trying new things, whether that’s different pacing, different settings, or even discreet additions like clit suckers and other toys, which some couples use as a way to explore pleasure together without pressure or awkwardness.
6) Prioritize quality time over quantity time
You can live together, share chores, and still barely connect. So, be sure to set aside intentional time where phones are down and distractions are off. One genuinely connected hour can do more than an entire week of half-attention.
7) Seek support
Finally, don’t be afraid to get support. Sometimes passion fades because of stress, resentment, or unresolved issues that feel too big to tackle alone. Couples therapy isn’t a last resort, it’s often a fast track back to understanding each other better.
The thing about passion is that it’s not one of those things you either have or do not have and there’s nothing you can do about it, right? It’s one of those things you need to work on and make an effort to build, which means anyone can have it and any couple can build it if they are willing to work on themselves and their relationships. This is good news for you, so get to work on bringing the passion back!
