How to make your future the best thing that will ever happen to you with these 10 existential hacks
Find out why you have much more control over the direction of your life than you may think – and get 10 existential hacks to change your future.
The future is not a fixed destination, but a journey you’re actively creating. In a world where bad news constantly dominates our headlines, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by uncertainty. But the future could be the best thing that will ever happen to you.
As an executive coach with decades of experience working with high-achieving individuals, I’ve seen firsthand how people can transform their lives by changing their approach to the future. The work can be challenging and take time, but for some quick wins, here are ten existential hacks that can help you reshape your relationship with the future and live a more fulfilling life.
The power of mindset
Before we dive into the hacks, it’s crucial to understand the power of mindset. Our brains are wired to focus on threats, a remnant of our evolutionary past when immediate danger was a constant concern. This tendency, while once crucial for survival, can now lead us to catastrophise about the future, creating a picture of impending disaster that may never materialise.
Scientists have shown that the structure of our brains can be impacted by our thought patterns. Neuroscience shows us that we can rewire our brains through conscious effort and practice. In short, being more positive is good for us.
With this understanding, let’s explore ten existential hacks that can help you harness the power of your mind and create a future you’re excited about.
1) Let others help
Many of us feel the need to tackle our problems alone. This solitary approach, however, goes against our nature as social beings. Research has consistently shown that social support is crucial for mental health and wellbeing.
Don’t hesitate to ask for help when you need it. If the idea of a face-to-face conversation feels daunting, consider a side-by-side activity. Many people find it easier to open up while engaged in a shared task or sport. Whether it’s going for a walk with a friend or working on a project together, these activities can provide a less intense setting for meaningful conversations.
2) See the wonder
Experiencing awe can have a profound impact on our psychological well-being. Just like love, wonder is all around. Look for it. This could be as simple as watching a sunset, visiting a museum, or attending a live performance. The collective energy of shared experiences can be particularly powerful. By exposing ourselves to awe-inspiring moments, we can shift our perspective and feel more connected to the world around us.
3) Have more fun
Play isn’t just for children. As adults, especially in high-pressure careers, we often forget the importance of unstructured, joyful activities.
This is what comedian and creativity expert John Cleese calls the “open mode” of thinking. In his lecture on creativity, Cleese contrasts this with the “closed mode” – our default state of stress and seriousness.
By engaging in play, we naturally shift into this open mode, allowing for greater problem-solving abilities and innovative thinking. This isn’t just about having fun – it’s about creating a mental environment conducive to breakthroughs and novel solutions, both in our personal and professional lives.
Make time for play in your life. This could mean getting down on the ground with your children or grandchildren, taking up a new hobby, or engaging in sports you enjoy. The key is to find activities that fully engage you and bring a sense of freedom and joy.
4) Do it now, not later
Procrastination often stems from fear or perfectionism. However, waiting for the “perfect” moment can lead to missed opportunities. Remember, done is better than perfect. Start that project you’ve been putting off, have that difficult conversation, or take that leap of faith. As the saying goes, “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second-best time is now.”
5) Flex your courage
Courage isn’t the absence of fear, but rather the ability to act despite it. Like a muscle, courage grows stronger with use.
Start small. Set yourself a challenge each day that pushes you slightly out of your comfort zone. It could be as simple as speaking up in a meeting or trying a new food. Over time, these small acts of courage will build your confidence to tackle bigger challenges, building self-esteem and a greater sense of satisfaction.
6) Focus on who you are
In our achievement-oriented society, it’s easy to define ourselves by our possessions or titles. However, true fulfilment comes from who we are, not what we have. And that’s not just some soppy thread running through a Hallmark movie, there is research to support it.
Focus on developing your character and values rather than accumulating accolades. Ask yourself, “What kind of person do I want to be?” rather than “What do I want to have?”. This shift in focus can lead to more meaningful goals and a stronger sense of purpose.
This doesn’t mean abandoning ambition, but rather ensuring that your ambitions serve your deeper purpose.
7) Embrace learning
Adopting a growth mindset – the belief that abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work – can significantly impact your approach to learning and challenges; it makes it easier to put more effort into learning.
And learning can improve both our health and wellbeing, especially as we age. Neuroscience research has shown that learning new skills can increase the density of white matter in the brain, improving its efficiency and adaptability while potentially staving off conditions like dementia.
There are any number of challenges you can set yourself. A common challenge is to learn a new language, but you could create a culinary bucket list of dishes you want to master making, or learn a professional skill you currently delegate to someone else or have always been interested in.
The key to keeping your mind flexible and open to new possibilities is challenging yourself regularly.
8) Shake it up
Routine can be comforting, but it can also lead to stagnation. By introducing variety into our lives, we can enhance our cognitive flexibility and creativity.
To experience fresh perspectives and new ideas, try taking a different route to work, rearranging your office, or spending a day doing things with your non-dominant hand.
Additionally, consider more significant changes. Travel to new places, immerse yourself in different cultures, or take on a project outside your usual area of expertise. These experiences can broaden your horizons and challenge your assumptions, leading to personal growth and new insights.
9) Be more active
The mind-body connection is powerful. Regular physical activity not only improves our physical health but also enhances cognitive function and emotional well-being. Regular exercise in middle age can reduce risks of dementia in later life.
Find physical activities you enjoy, whether it’s sailing, running, or playing a sport. The key is consistency rather than intensity. Even a daily walk can bring benefits, for both your physical and mental health.
Moreover, physical activity can be a powerful tool for stress management. Exercise reduces levels of stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline while stimulating the production of endorphins, which are natural mood elevators.
10) Demonstrate your free will
The debate over free will has raged for centuries, but recent research suggests that simply believing in free will can have positive effects on our behaviour and wellbeing.
Believing in free will doesn’t mean denying the influence of external factors. Rather, it’s about recognising that within the constraints of our circumstances, we have the power to make choices that shape our lives and the world around us.
We need to make choices, take action, and accept responsibility which, in turn, helps us make better choices. If it feels difficult, then start small. Decide to do something different, like to go to the cinema one afternoon, take action, and accept any consequences that come your way.
Enjoy the ride and track your progress
To help you incorporate these hacks into your daily life, consider creating a checklist. Regularly (daily, weekly, or monthly – whatever works best for you), score yourself on each of these existential hacks. This practice can help you track your progress and identify areas where you might want to focus more attention.
Score each item from 1-3, with 1 being “didn’t do this at all” and 3 being “fully engaged in this”. The goal isn’t to score perfectly each time, but to increase your awareness and gradually improve over time.
By actively engaging with life, taking risks, and believing in your ability to shape your future, you can transform uncertainty from a source of anxiety into a wellspring of possibility.
Stephen Bruyant-Langer has over 30 years’ experience as an executive coach and leadership expert, guiding top executives and leaders worldwide to reach their full potential. He is founder of The Personal Business Plan, the new standard in executive coaching, and through his Executive Coaching Programme, he has transformed the lives of hundreds of high-level executives using his unique 10-step system for personal and professional development.
Stephen blends corporate, academic, entrepreneurial and consulting skills, having held senior positions with industry leaders like The Coca-Cola Company, L’Oréal and Korn Ferry.
He has authored two bestselling books (‘Your Next Career – A head-hunter’s guide to lifelong success’ and ‘The Personal Business Plan – A blueprint for running your life’) and over 400 articles on leadership.
In parallel he has served as an Associate Professor at Copenhagen Business School as well as an Associate at the Møller Institute, Churchill College, University of Cambridge. His third book, ‘The Existential Playbook – How to Survive, Live and Thrive’ was published September 2024.
