How to boost your confidence quickly
Whether you’re a budding entrepreneur a busy mom or a career woman looking to climb the work ladder, having more confidence in yourself and your abilities will help you to live your day-to-day life and achieve your goals with greater ease and more happiness.
Unfortunately, for many women, self-confidence is something that is sorely lacking, and it can prevent them from even trying the things that they would most like to do; the things that are most likely to bring good things into tier lives and help them to be the women they truly want to be.
If this sounds familiar to you, there is no need to worry because self-confidence is like a muscle that you can build, and which the more you flex, the bigger and stronger it will be. With that in mind, let’s take a look at some of the best things you can do to boost your confidence quickly.
1) Make a list of the things you’ve done
When you lack confidence, it is so easy to tell yourself that you have never done anything right; that you have not achieved very much with your life, and that you probably never will. Something, then, which can be very helpful is to actually sit down and make a list of all the things you have accomplished because there will be things.
Whether you’ve started your own business, brought up a wonderful family, or excelled at a particular sport, amongst other things, you will have done lots of good things in your life, and reminding yourself of that fact from tie to time is a great way to start feeling confident again.
2) Wear something you feel great in
This might seem like a really superficial thing, but it can really work if you let it. We all know how amazing that silk blouse denim skirt combo or our favorite pantsuit, for example, makes us feel, so if you want to boost your confidence in a hurry, dressing in something that makes you feel a million dollars while also being comfortable enough for you to go about your day in, is a quick and simple fix that can really work wonders.
3) Learn something new
Many women avoid even trying to learn a new skill because they do not believe that they will be any good at it. However, one of the best ways to boost your confidence so you can do things even if you feel like you might suck, is to actually learn something new in the first place.
When you take the time to learn a new skill, and you make progress in doing so, even if you are never going to be truly great at it, it shows you that you are capable of much more than you thought you were and you can vastly improve your self-esteem as a result. Not only that, but you will also, of course, be improving your competency in life by adding new skills, which is enough to give you a confidence boost in itself.
4) Get creative
Even if you are usually a more practical person, if you are looking to boost your confidence, something that can help immensely is to start being more creative in your day-to-day life. Creativity provides the brain with stimulation and challenges you to be the best you can be, while also boosting wellbeing.
If you take it seriously, whether you’re painting a portrait or writing a poem, it will stretch you and show you what you can do and you will immediately start to be better. That’s why all women should have at least one creative hobby that they practice from time to time.
5) Help someone
One of the best ways to boost your confidence, without a doubt, is to use your skills and abilities to help someone in need, Whether you use your writing skills to craft an amazing appeal for a local charity or your cooking skills to help feed the homeless, anything you do which helps other people and which showcases your very real skills and talents will help to build back your self-confidence and show you what really matters in life. So, what are you waiting for? Get out there and do something good!
6) Stop comparing yourself to others
They say that comparison is the thief of joy, but it is also fair to say that comparison is the thief of confidence too. So many women make themselves feel so bad and let their self-esteem fall through the floor because they are not as thin or as efficient or as successful as that woman they follow on social media or their neighbor or their cousin or whoever when it is so needless.
The only person you should be measuring yourself against is yourself one year ago. If you have made any progress at all n that time, then that is something to be celebrated. Let yourself be your source of self-esteem and stop giving your power away to other people.
7) Live with integrity
If you know exactly who you are as a person, what matters to you and what does not, and you always make a real effort to live by your values whether that means shopping ethically or treating people as you would like to be treated, or something else completely then you will always be a happier more confident person because you will be living in accordance with your highest values.
You will feel good about yourself and that will help you to live a happy and healthy, not to mention, more productive, life overall. Try it and you will see that it really does work!
8) Fix your boundaries
It’s hard to feel as confident as you possibly can if you are always letting people walk all over you and take what they need without thinking about your needs. That is why, if you truly want to be confident, you need to think about setting your own personal boundaries and guarding them fiercely.
Work out what you want from people and what you expect of them and put it into practice, If people try to cross them, shut them down and don’t be afraid to say no. YOur boundaries are important and you matter, so enforce them strictly and see your confidence soar.
9) Work out what success means to you
Working out what success means to you means that you never have to be defined by anyone else again, For example, success to you may look like being a good mother or starting a successful small business while for other women it may mean traveling the world or marrying a rich man.
If you were to ask those women if you were successful, they might say no, but if you think only about whether you have achieved what you want to in life, it is much more likely you will be able to identify your own unique successes when they are not generic, but goals which are important and meaningful to you alone. Don’t know what success would be like for you? Explore what you truly want from life and it will soon become apparent.
Boosting your confidence once and for all may take time and effort on your part, but there is no denying that the above ideas are quick ways to start building your self-confidence. Use them as a foundation and keep practicing until you truly feel comfortable, and more than that, happy with yourself, it can and will happen for you if you want it to, and life will be so much easier when you’re brimming with confidence.
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