Five bedroom signs your partner may be cheating
When cracks begin to form in the bedroom, it could be a sign of something deeper. Changes in how a couple has sex can be early indicators that a partner is thinking about being unfaithful.
To help you work out what is going on, CEO of Peachy, a leading adult toy store shares five signs that someone may be about to cheat (or is already cheating) that can be spotted in the bedroom.
1) They want to have sex less
The classic sign of a partner having an affair is when they no longer want to be intimate in the bedroom. This may be because they’re feeling guilty about seeking pleasure elsewhere, or they’ve lost interest in the relationship. If they constantly avoid sex with excuses about being tired or stressed, it could be a red flag.
2) They want to have sex more
Someone might be excited by the illicit thrill of cheating, meaning they’re more into sex in general. Or, if their behaviour seems forced, it might all be a cover-up.
People know that having less sex can lead their partners to suspect they’re having an affair, so they might force more intimacy than usual to try and cover their tracks.
3) They focus on the physical
If it feels like a partner is just going through the motions, that could be a warning sign. If someone is having sex purely for physical gratification and is no longer interested in building an emotional connection, it’s a sign that they’re no longer interested in the relationship.
They might move on to seeking emotional connections elsewhere because they don’t feel fulfilled in their current relationship.
4) They have new moves
If a partner has a new move they want to try out, they probably won’t execute it flawlessly the first time. But if they’ve been practising with another partner, that’s not the case.
Their other partner might have taught them something new, or they might have simply felt freer to practise something with them. Either way, if they’re flawlessly executing something you’ve never seen before, ask yourself when they had the opportunity to practise that.
5) You notice unexplained marks and scents
People smell different when they’ve been intimate with others – and not just because a perfume or aftershave has rubbed off on them. Humans each have a distinctive scent, and you might be able to pick it up on your partner’s skin. And of course, a hickey you didn’t give them is just a no-brainer.
What to do if you suspect your partner is cheating
A partner cheating is a devastating experience. First of all, give yourself space to mourn that betrayal of trust. Understand that it might take a while to process your emotions before you can even think about how to move forward, and make sure your partner understands that, too.
When you are ready, have an honest conversation about your relationship. What works? What doesn’t? How are you both feeling? Try using ‘I feel’ statements that focus on your perspective rather than ‘you did this’ statements that can feel accusatory.
Advice from friends and family can be a double-edged sword. While an outside perspective can often point out things you don’t see because you’re too close to the issue, your loved ones are not as invested in this relationship as you are. Remember, the only person who can decide how to move forward is you.
Amy Williams is a relationship and sexual intimacy expert. She is the CEO and founder of Peachy, Australia’s largest adult toy store.
