Five signs your partner is addicted to dating
Relationships can be tricky, especially when someone appears more interested in the actual act of dating than of forming a deeper connection to you.
When you’re trying to build a real connection in online dating, matching with someone who just likes the thrill of the chase is a recipe for hurt feelings and wasted time.
In this article, April Davis, founder of LUMA Luxury Matchmaking, a high-end matchmaking service, reveals five signs that indicate your partner may be addicted to dating rather than into you, shedding light on behavioural patterns that often go unnoticed.
1) You only have surface-level conversations
Someone who’s more into dating for the thrill of the chase or the excuse to go out to dinner will likely keep the conversation light. They won’t be interested in getting to know you on more than a surface level. Small talk they can do, but when it comes to deeper discussions about your personal values and life goals, you’ll get the vibe that they don’t care.
Keep an eye out for someone who’s dismissive of anything that interests you that doesn’t appeal to them. A potential partner who wants to make a deep connection will hear you out in hopes of discovering more about you as a person, whereas someone who’s just there for the date won’t want to hear about your niche areas of interest.
2) They don’t follow up after dates
If they don’t follow up with texts or calls after the date, they’re not interested in continuing the conversation – perhaps because they weren’t there for that in the first place. Someone who can’t wait to hear from you again will seek out communication. Someone who just wanted an excuse to go out won’t bother.
3) They don’t put any effort into planning
Partners who care about their significant other will personalise their dates, putting effort into planning activities that will interest the other person. Someone who dates for the sake of dating won’t put that much thought into it.
Just the act of going on a date is exciting to them. What they do doesn’t matter. If it feels like they’ve just picked something generic or last-minute, or something that has no relevance to your interests, that’s a red flag.
4) They ask you out all the time (but don’t care how you’re doing)
Someone who’s addicted to dating might turn to the same partner again and again not because they’re interested in progressing the relationship, but because they know they’ll go along with their request to go out.
A dating addict wants to go on lots of dates, so if you’re being asked out a lot but the other party shows no interest in being involved in other areas of your life, watch out.
5) They compare you to others
A dating addict might frequently bring up other people they’ve dated, whether that be exes or other potential dating partners.
This could suggest they see dating as a competition, or that they’re just in it to shop around and have as many dates as possible. If you’re just one of the many, they’re not interested in forging a connection with you.
Why are some people serial daters?
There are a number of root causes behind serial dating. Some dating addicts are afraid of the emotional vulnerability that comes with committing to someone, while some just can’t be bothered to put in the effort it takes to make a proper relationship work. Other dating addicts are just looking to have fun without getting their feelings involved.
Serial daters can also suffer from self-esteem problems. Some people feel like they’re failing at life if they aren’t dating, while some struggle to admit to themselves that they don’t actually want a partner. Others just want to boast that they’ve been on this many dates this week, aren’t they cool?
A more serious problem is getting addicted to dating because of the thrill and euphoria it brings. Some people who love going on dates feel empty and depressed when they don’t have a date planned. That’s the point at which someone might need professional help.
LUMA Luxury Matchmaking is a high-end matchmaking service that caters to professionals, executives, and millionaires who are serious about finding a long-term partner.
The firm’s experienced matchmakers, many of whom are also life coaches, use their expertise to carefully match clients based on their personality and lifestyle, aiming to create meaningful and lasting relationships
